After having a read through sites lately I noticed that the general negative attitude of people is generally being dominated by positive messages. I am enjoying seeing these uplifting and heart warming posts. Particularly on Twitter (follow me if you want: @Thomas87520559).
It wasn’t long ago that the timelines – mine at least – was obscured with such ill wishes. Of course a lot are real, insulting and dangerous. Most can be classed as bait, stirring up arguments among the Writing Community. Join the community by talking to the indie authors on Twitter. Thankfully a lot of people are waking up to the fact that not responding and antagonising such people is better. I was ready to delete my account at one point before the new year because all I saw was arguing! It’s not nice!
Well this brings us to the title of this post. You are Enough. You are, truly. Don’t feel like you are worth less because you don’t respond to the negativity. Don’t feel like less even if you do. Don’t compare yourself to those who produce negativity and hate and then tell you it’s your fault. Stay true to yourself. You are enough the way you are, nobody else defines that. So, no matter how much it might impact you, in reality it shouldn’t.
I love the above quote. You don’t need to feel less worthy if for example, you wrote a story but didn’t get published. You don’t need to feel like you are better than people who haven’t published either, if you have. These are dangerous comparisons. Sure, you have goals, aims and such but that is your life. Not theirs.
I can imagine that the reason that many people are depressed or anxious is because they think it’s a race, a competition. It’s not, no matter what people say. This is life and you can do what you want. You do not need to be wearing someone else’s clothes to feel good, nor do you have to be driving a sporty car, or running ten miles a day.
If you are happy to be you, then you will always be happy.
Aside from that I’m writing on my work I’m progress today. It’s a ghost story if you are wondering. Strange happenings. I hope to have a good first draft by mid-February latest. I’m not keen on working on anything else at the moment. Although I did have another story in the works, it can wait.
That’s enough chat, time for a poem. Titled You are Enough.
Amethyst is a widely available and modesty priced crystal compared to many others. It is one of the more potent crystals with powerful healing properties.
You can feel an instant peace of mind when you are in the presence of this crystal, or when you hold it. It’s a crystal composed of vibrant purples and white colours, both high vibration associations.
Amethyst is from the quartz family. It can be found all over the world. And it widely used within the developed world.
The crystal possesses metaphysical properties. The main ones being calm, balance and peace with are brought about to those who have this in their aura or vicinity. The importance of calm in meditation make it ideal for using during your sessions.
As for healing, it’s a crystal known to help improve mental clarity and aid in sobriety. That’s only one healing. It is powerful in emotional, physical and spiritual healing as well. Emotional healing comes in the form of calm mind, more patience, better ability to sedate and transform your negative emotions into positive ones and even a better ability to feel mentally secure. In other words the crystal will help you feel like you are better, and it works as soon as you hold it.
Physically it works with the body to improve circulation. It can help heal physical ills inside us, by strengthening our adrenals and heart, and by increasing the immune systems effectiveness. It enhances our physical vitality. Amethyst works in healing the pancreas and spleen and aids in cleansing the lungs too. So if you are sick, unwell etc. it will help you recover quicker.
Stress relief that comes from this crystal aids physical and emotional healing along with its ability to detoxify the body, likely from the increased circulation that comes from using the crystal. It is a high vibration crystal so you might want to use a grounding stone along side amethyst.
In summary, the benefits are as follows:
enhancing the immune system
improving endocrine function
improving the skin’s appearance
promoting digestive health
reducing headaches
regulating hormones
I suspect that all of those benefits come from the increased circulation and improved stress. It is a powerful crystal that it able to transform the negative to positive.
In a never ending landscape of unconscious desire
Longing to find the one, who set me on fire
Maybe the words will slip from my lips
Perhaps it's all just going to fall to bits.
As we meet we don't acknowledge
The feelings
Deny our believing's
In one another.
So when the sun touches the horizon
As it sets behind earths magnetic hills
And night leaps into the day
Such a pain to say
So much more...
Just as dreams touch the night
They touch the day, everyday.
No longer hidden from my own hearts desire
So I found a way to search through the minds lair
Although the labyrinth is big
Bigger than I'll ever be
It's just a disillusioned rig
Shapes and noise form consequence.
Coming down the second sunset...
There she goes
As it too passes with time
The silver river of my mind
Waving, waiting
Anxiously anticipating
What we will say.
You can't see the fire within
But you will feel the heat
Inside
Quick Point on Protests
When it comes to having passions, I think that is great. I love hearing about peoples lives, passions and hobbies, goals and more. When you push it too far into the realm that affects others though, it isn’t a good thing.
I wanted to express my opinion on this topic. When I see protestors I don’t see their point in hurting, disturbing or insulting the normal people not involved. Yes it involves some harm. You might say that protest is a great thing to oppose the institutions. Sure when done correctly.
Lately I keep seeing vegans showing animals abuse and slaughter in the streets on television screens, they wear masks and don’t speak. I agree with one or two people that this is disgusting to be showing people walking around in public, especially children. It isn’t fair to push this on people with the insinuation that they are bad for eating meat. Eating a plant based diet has benefits, sure. But there is a need for some humans to eat meat. Their bodies cannot tolerate all plant based or they lack protein from it. This is not a diet issue with some but a medical issue. So when I see vegan pushing it against everyone – including myself – I get offended.
Then there is the sitting in road protests against oil. It disturbs people from getting to work. It stop emergency services. What does this achieve? Nothing. Stopping cars on one road will not impact billion pound energy companies from selling oil. Nor will it stop the customer from buying it.
That is all. I don’t think forcing these things on people is the way to go. It makes me frustrated to see this because it upsets my fellow human beings and that in turn affects me. Being passionate doesn’t mean you should cause people alarm and distress. Love one another!
Now onto writing. I have a short story ready to publish although not sure if I will. I also started to publish one on Wattpad – exclusive there until further notice. It is called The Zombie Lands and will have a new part released every Saturday. You can follow me on there for updates on the story. It is free. I suppose I could put it for sale but it’s free for now. So enjoy!
Humble as the day I was self awarethe gift of consciousnessthe gift to be awareto think that people would tryto bring me downto attack my crownis a coal in your jewelry boxis a dead bird atop a devouring fox
... humbled beneath my eyesyour the one I see insideso the dark days they pass fastlike Alice, looking through the looking glass
You’ve nailed a concept, plot, character or dilemma and formed a vision of a beautiful story in your mind. You have it planned, or perhaps are waiting to unleash it without planning anything. I want you to finish your story and enjoy the process. From my own writing I’ve found five essential writing tips that will considerably improve your story writing skills!
BE OPEN TO CHANGE – Just because you’ve planned a story it does not mean you cannot change the plot, characters or direction. Being open to change is really the number 1 tip you must take on board when creating fiction! Always be open to change, and feel free to change your story or the elements. Nothing is worse than being stuck in a chapter confused as to where to take the story because your planning hasn’t worked out, or the story simply went another way!
REVIEW YOUR CHARACTERS AND EVENTS REGULARLY – Be sure that you have understood your characters and what happens to them to make sure that inconsistencies don’t exist; such as Jane with blonde hair turning into a red headed man called John. Don’t be afraid of taking time to comb through a chapter for these little cracks in story either, it may save you the confusing editing process where you discover someone has grown several feet or has managed to teleport across country with no explanation whatsoever.
HAVE THE END GOAL IN MIND – Always, when writing, be in review of your ultimate end goals or climax. Are you working toward that? Are you getting side tracked and possibly creating a completely different story? If you have a clear end goal – which comes from good planning – then you will write your plot, characters and story in that direction. Sure you might improvise elements of the story or a chapter or two away from the central plot, but at the end of the day distraction shows you lack direction in your own story. I should know.
WRITE FOR YOURSELF – Ideally always. Many writers and published authors will say write to the market or for a particular audience, but this will cause you to quickly lose your honesty and soul. You’ll find it harder. Write the story how you want, for you. Worry about the opinion of others later.
EDIT YOUR STORY MULTIPLE TIMES – This will give you the chance to do multiple rewrites if needed, to comb out mistakes and such and to actually review your own story in full. After a first initial draft you should aim to go through to do the initial rewriting followed by a copy edit of the manuscript. You can pay an editor to do this for you, and then work with their suggestions. Reviewing and editing allows you sometimes to take a great story and make it shine like gold. It really can make the difference, allowing you to smooth out sentences and such for easier reading. You might find you delete a lot too. Ideally you’d go through two to three times minimum.*
*A point on the editing; writers tend to go for a developmental edit followed by the line edit, followed by a spelling and punctuation check last. After that they get a proof read.* This is by no means something you have to pay for. You can do all of it yourself, and plenty of resources exist to find beta-readers etc. that can help the process considerably.
Thank you for reading this short, important post. I’d love to hear if you have any tips you’d share yourself. Of course one unwritten rule is that you should have fun. So create the story and enjoy writing it!
Welcome to my site! It’s Thursday which means another hectic weekend of seasons shopping is approaching for millions. It’s been below freezing here for well over 2 weeks now, not kidding. Everyday I wake to frost outside and sleep to frost outside! You’d think it would snow properly but no, it just get really cold.
Anyway I’ve managed to snap a few photos this week of a park on the outskirts of Greater Manchester. I used a phone to take the photos rather than my 4k camera which I did not have with me.
I thought the view was lovely. So many autumnal leaves fallen. So much frost. I hope to get more photos, but I keep forgetting my camera when I go places! Forgive me maybe I’m too much in the moment. 😎
Let’s return to the title of the post, It’s Okay to Enjoy Your Own Company – Why you shouldn’t worry about it. You shouldn’t be self conscious of being alone or indeed enjoying it. I can think of several reasons – even if you can’t. Firstly you might think you are a loner or weirdo for enjoying your own company, or being alone. Maybe you worry about being alone and want to connect because that is what other people do?
Well none of that matters. If you are alone, you should not force connection if you don’t want to. Sure connecting is great, but sometimes we simply can’t. If you enjoy it, and feel self conscious about it – lots of people do – then just enjoy your time. I spent some time on my gaming console last night enjoying myself and thought about how over the last few years I’ve enjoyed doing that alone, feeling somewhat connected to the game and others despite being alone. Well, you can find that thing too. Being comfortable with yourself is what matters.
Being comfortable with yourself is the most important thing
Wizard
The above quote is so inspirational. If you can’t enjoy being by yourself then what will happen when you are forced into that position? What happens if you never truly accept yourself? I like to break things down to make it easier to understand. Self love, self care and self compassion go a very long way in creating a nurturing environment for yourself. Let’s look at why it’s okay to enjoy your own company; taking the above quote as guidance.
Acceptance of who you are as a being – Learning to enjoy your own company means you realise that you have you. You can be the foundation, and if that doesn’t exist people might feel like you don’t care about yourself. Accept your faults, change what you can and know the difference.
Peace and forgiveness – Channel the love inside to bring peace and happiness to your life, forgive yourself and learn that at the end of the day you’ve done nothing wrong. Being away from people doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you.
There’s no rulebook – Despite what many people might say, there is no social or life rulebook. You don’t need to feel a certain way, act a certain way or even worry about anything at all. Simply acknowledging that you enjoy your own company is not abnormal because there isn’t a standard model.
Worry creates stress – Stress causes illness and more stress. Don’t sweat the little things, develop hobbies and healthy past times. Enjoy life! If you are self conscious about being alone because others are then that may well act against you.
I’ve taken the time to yet again talk about this important and rampant issues which at its core is loneliness. A brick in the wall of welfare and societal issues.
In that post I highlighted how many people go without talking to people. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with others once in a while or often can be a great help to mental wellbeing. Of course, being content alone doesn’t mean you can’t share your feelings with people. Maybe for you a quick chat is enough. For others, just a phone call can make a difference.
At the end of the day you should not worry about enjoying your own company because that worry will in turn make you feel like it is something you shouldn’t be doing. Getting over that hurdle can reap massive benefits. Feel connected with yourself firstly is the way forward and people will see this positive image you have of yourself, and therefore are more likely to take that on board as a sign that ‘this person’ is doing well, because they don’t need people to feel good.
Despite my loneliness increasing this last year and depression – I am still content with myself and what I do. Even when I am alone. Granted sometimes it can be overwhelming which is what this post was conveying. I know others felt this way which is why I am sharing it.
A poem for the blog post! Blue Eyes
I see blue eyes shimmer in the lakeShake shakethe wind shakes the treesLeaves that fallenTo a cracked groundOtters scurry aroundBirds chirp seasonal soundHearts that beatApartOr yearnFor the water to breakUs apart
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Do you have a favourite Christmas drink? I prefer a hot chocolate which is what this post is about!
Below is a fantastic recipe which I found through Twitter:
As you can see this is different because it contains some potent spices and flavours! Vanilla and nutmeg make a delicious combination. There is no limit to how far you can take this recipe. You can add some whipped cream on top, then sprinkle some chocolate and add a flake for example.
I’m hoping to wow someone with this recipe as long as they have the ingredients in… otherwise I’ll have to go buy some more. Talkinng of buying the ingredients, I should probably stock up on food before Christmas. I recommend you all do the same.
Todays poem is called – fittingly – HOT CHOCOLATE
It warms my stomach
And fills me with joy
Our favourite mug of love
Served with our toys
This Christmas you’ll be tucking into some warm, succulent turkey I imagine! Although, nothing wrong with cooking any large bird, or having any alternative meats!
I’ve been venturing to different areas, some more decorated and in the spirit than others. I have my list of go to places for a meal or drink – those which are nice, have a Christmas theme going and are generally happy in nature. Unfortunately, where I live there isn’t many decorations around the town. Only a little. But I can always travel which is what I have been doing!
The time of year to relax, have fun and get into the spirit. Maybe you should try out a Christmas market. I’ve been trying to find one that stands out. As I said I have my preferences for locations to visit, but they never have a massive market. Some places have mostly food stalls. My recent trip to the Intu Trafford Center revealed a small festive fairground with ice skating which I did not know about! I will be going back at some point.
I also hope to be able to do some skiiing over this winter. I doubt it will be on a real mountain, but I nonetheless want to. That’s a great day out if you are struggling with things to do with the family. I’m hoping to spark some creativity in you by sharing this post. A lot of people are alone and struggle at Christmas. Why not go out and do it yourself? What I mean is that if you are struggling for ideas on what to do you should just do it yourself because you will probably have a good day.
There are loads of Christmas pantomimes on this time of year and a load of Christmas themed shows. Not to mention the markets in the cities, although primarily food based are still a good way to socialise if you are lonely.
Don’t feel pressured into being happy and cheery though. You aren’t doing anything wrong by simply not having a good time. People struggle, it’s human nature.
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