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Welcome to my site! It’s Thursday which means another hectic weekend of seasons shopping is approaching for millions. It’s been below freezing here for well over 2 weeks now, not kidding. Everyday I wake to frost outside and sleep to frost outside! You’d think it would snow properly but no, it just get really cold.

Anyway I’ve managed to snap a few photos this week of a park on the outskirts of Greater Manchester. I used a phone to take the photos rather than my 4k camera which I did not have with me.

I thought the view was lovely. So many autumnal leaves fallen. So much frost. I hope to get more photos, but I keep forgetting my camera when I go places! Forgive me maybe I’m too much in the moment. 😎

Let’s return to the title of the post, It’s Okay to Enjoy Your Own Company – Why you shouldn’t worry about it. You shouldn’t be self conscious of being alone or indeed enjoying it. I can think of several reasons – even if you can’t. Firstly you might think you are a loner or weirdo for enjoying your own company, or being alone. Maybe you worry about being alone and want to connect because that is what other people do?

Well none of that matters. If you are alone, you should not force connection if you don’t want to. Sure connecting is great, but sometimes we simply can’t. If you enjoy it, and feel self conscious about it – lots of people do – then just enjoy your time. I spent some time on my gaming console last night enjoying myself and thought about how over the last few years I’ve enjoyed doing that alone, feeling somewhat connected to the game and others despite being alone. Well, you can find that thing too. Being comfortable with yourself is what matters.

Being comfortable with yourself is the most important thing

Wizard

The above quote is so inspirational. If you can’t enjoy being by yourself then what will happen when you are forced into that position? What happens if you never truly accept yourself? I like to break things down to make it easier to understand. Self love, self care and self compassion go a very long way in creating a nurturing environment for yourself. Let’s look at why it’s okay to enjoy your own company; taking the above quote as guidance.

Acceptance of who you are as a being – Learning to enjoy your own company means you realise that you have you. You can be the foundation, and if that doesn’t exist people might feel like you don’t care about yourself. Accept your faults, change what you can and know the difference.

Peace and forgiveness – Channel the love inside to bring peace and happiness to your life, forgive yourself and learn that at the end of the day you’ve done nothing wrong. Being away from people doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you.

There’s no rulebook – Despite what many people might say, there is no social or life rulebook. You don’t need to feel a certain way, act a certain way or even worry about anything at all. Simply acknowledging that you enjoy your own company is not abnormal because there isn’t a standard model.

Worry creates stress – Stress causes illness and more stress. Don’t sweat the little things, develop hobbies and healthy past times. Enjoy life! If you are self conscious about being alone because others are then that may well act against you.

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I’ve taken the time to yet again talk about this important and rampant issues which at its core is loneliness. A brick in the wall of welfare and societal issues.

This site has some interesting points on the matter at hand: https://www.verywellmind.com/loneliness-causes-effects-and-treatments-2795749

My recent poetry and post discussed this a little: https://psychedelicwizard.uk/2022/11/24/alone/

In that post I highlighted how many people go without talking to people. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with others once in a while or often can be a great help to mental wellbeing. Of course, being content alone doesn’t mean you can’t share your feelings with people. Maybe for you a quick chat is enough. For others, just a phone call can make a difference.

At the end of the day you should not worry about enjoying your own company because that worry will in turn make you feel like it is something you shouldn’t be doing. Getting over that hurdle can reap massive benefits. Feel connected with yourself firstly is the way forward and people will see this positive image you have of yourself, and therefore are more likely to take that on board as a sign that ‘this person’ is doing well, because they don’t need people to feel good.

Despite my loneliness increasing this last year and depression – I am still content with myself and what I do. Even when I am alone. Granted sometimes it can be overwhelming which is what this post was conveying. I know others felt this way which is why I am sharing it.

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A poem for the blog post! Blue Eyes

I see blue eyes shimmer in the lake
Shake shake
the wind shakes the trees
Leaves that fallen
To a cracked ground
Otters scurry around
Birds chirp seasonal sound
Hearts that beat
Apart
Or yearn
For the water to break
Us apart

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